You know, it sounds ironic to people when I say that I needed to “set aside God” as the standard to “live up to” - which simply was unattainable! And that is what made me such a poor Christian.
And in order to find ABILITY to let Love flourish within me, I needed to “clear the space” that God occupied all my life. It may not make a lot of sense when people hear me say this; in fact I am sure the amygdala registers this as a terrifying thought initially… but in order to be “able” you have to let go of the “disabling” belief in God to do everything for you and start believing in your Self.
It wasn’t until I gave myself enough credit that I could actually be a capable and loving person, that I became that quite naturally. It’s all in what we believe about ourselves.